The Muddled Mind

One of the biggest things we are dealing with in this ever-changing world is clarity. Clarity on what we want, what we wish, what we desire, and what we should fight for.  Why we are not clear on things? Do you think this is maybe because of the abundance of options? but is that really the reason why we are not clear? Or is it because there is one more option which is quitting.  My parents constantly tell me that in their whole life journey, they never had this option. They never had the luxury to give up on things. Because they always have to fight for even the smallest things. and us, the new generation 'think' we have time, we have resources and we have options.  This 'Always hustle' or 'Never settle' culture is going to bring doom to us very soon. We are never going to be happy or satisfied with where we are. And this is not about only when we are young but this attitude change is going to affect us, even more, when we get older and we have lesser options.  ...

Hey strong women, Every day is our day but if the world is celebrating us extra today, that’s great too. I know what we have gone through and damn we are strong💪 We have dealt with all the upsides and downsides of our life with our best foot forward and a big smile and that determination. May our grit and resistance to not give up hold still in us. May we support each other May we breed stronger women May we live our best May we be the strongest and happiest we have ever been May we never succumb to anyone or anything May we keep bumping into each other more often May we get all the love and support in the world May we become that strong that we don’t need all the love and support in the world May we follow our dreams before living anyone else’s dream May we keep ourselves our number 1 priority ALWAYS. Let’s promise to be the badass, the strongest, the happiest version of ourselves. Happy women’s day!

Something in life is worth letting go of but you will only know that after you had experienced it before and we can predict the possible outcomes. Like - Arguing with parents or anyone on anything. Or arguments in general. You can't change anyone's opinion in one argument. FOMO. Trying to connect with the ‘friends’ who haven’t been there for you and you lost touch. Sad about getting a dream job but honestly not working for it. Prioritizing your career over EVERYTHING. Go to family functions because you mostly never have that option. Take up a job which you are not passionate about but good money. Seeing other people doing what you wanted to do but couldn’t. Expecting something from anyone just because you think you are closer to them. Something which is happening and we don’t have any power to change like aging, politics, natural calamities, etc. Other people’s opinions on you. It anyways shouldn’t affect you at any point in time. You are not supposed to compete with anyone for...

Why people are not happy anymore? Most people have a good job, a good salary or good relationships with other people, still why I don’t know a lot of people who can bravely say that they are at peace. So many motivational speakers say that happiness is not a state, it’s a way of life. You should not feel joyous for a particular moment but just because you are alive, eating, talking, or sleeping properly, you should be forever grateful and joyous. I can see people try though, some people harder than others but most of them have now found their peace at being miserable or sorrowful.  You do not have to ask people to know if they are happy or not, you can just feel in their vibe and now because of this whole post-pandemic era, you can’t even feel that because of no physical connection so they can probably post like 2-3 times on your social media with hashtags #besttimeofmylife #sohappy to prove how happy you are but it doesn’t justify the fact that they really are. So well my point is...

Relationships are so precious. I cannot stress enough the fact that everything in life can come and go and then come again but if you lose someone you love, you cannot get them back. Seeing so many losses nearby because of this pandemic and stress, it breaks my heart to know that someone has lost their son whom they have raised from the womb, someone has lost their partner whom they promised to spend all their life together, someone has lost their parents who made them who they are now as well as someone lost their siblings, mentors, and friends. The void which got created because of this loss can never be replaced with anyone or anything, people will have to just learn to live with it. So Love. Love with all your capabilities, love with all your heart, love with everything you have, and express that enough. Tell everyone you love and don't want to lose that how grateful you are that they are in your life. Do not take them lightly. You can build your career later again, you can go ...

The most important thing right now to look out for while joining any new company should be the work culture and the people working over there. This should be considered as a very important aspect. You work for min 9 hours in some company, you should definitely feel comfortable with the people over there who also motivate you to get over your weakness and fear and give you support at all times. So make a point to research the decision-makers of that company while accepting any job offer. Find people on LinkedIn who work in that company and ask them questions like 'How do you feel about working in this company?' 'Do you consider anyone here as your mentor and whom you can look up to?' 'Is your team and manager value your inputs and support you especially when feeling lost?' 'Are you really comfortable with your manager, enough to share or discuss problems without any hesitation or fear of #judgement?' 'Do you have a friendly relationship with the peop...

Why people are running everywhere in chaos chasing the unknowns?. Phew! Why no one is stopping even for a single breath? Is it because there is so much competition all around with people who constantly need validation? All the set measures are dependent on what the world of the internet shows. Where you want to go, what do you want to eat and what do you want to be, everything is just proportional to what the new trends look like. Is this the right approach, one can wonder? This all started as a medium for fun and entertainment and now it has control over all our lives.  For example, opening LinkedIn and seeing so many peers or people updating their resumes or work experiences makes you think what you do work-wise is not even an ounce of all the abundance of opportunities. But is this feeling good? I mean doesn't it makes you unhappy and useless? We are so accustomed to ordering the best sellers in the market from all the shopping websites, eating and going out to the cafes which h...

You don't need to make a big change in your life to achieve anything. It can be a smaller one too. A marginal change in your life can make a big change. And you are not so busy or so old to make little changes in your life. Want to be fit? Start running for 15 mins in a single day. Want to learn something new? Pick up that new thing for 15 mins and start learning. You want to wake up early. Put an alarm 15 mins before your usual time and don't put it on snooze. We don't value tiny changes as much as we should. You don't need to invest your thought process or big-time in thinking how to do that or how much effort and time it requires at the initial level only. Because that unnecessary thoughts only lead to procrastination and making every task a big one. Don't think just do it. If you think about something do it within 5 minutes of thinking it, if you will delay it more than that then it will become a job that will require effort. And as it is proven if you consisten...

The Social Dilemma on Netflix. It looks such hypocrisy to write about this especially on the internet media itself. People are so hyped about this so I gave it a watch. And man it's horrifying AF. I got scared more than I have ever watched a horror series because yes this is true and yes it is happening and yes we know. Not giving any spoiler alert as you can go watch it on Netflix but in this post, I really am obliged to tell about how I feel about social media ruling our culture and life. And we KNOW all about this and we are still stuck in a trap.  I have honestly tried staying away from it for only 24 hours and it didn't work. I got anxiety, FOMO, and bored to death. The constant need to make updates on the world and people, all the data availability in just 1 click away and most importantly the urge to share and ask for opinions seem like a dire need to survive. There was a day when we were happy watching cartoons for 1 hour a day, playing hide and seek and cards with sibl...

In the bubble of patriarchy, we live in, What's the stand of a strong independent woman. Fighting for her family, dignity, sanity, and passion all the time at every step. No one believes her, why? Because she has strong opinions. No one believes her, why? Because she fights for herself alone. No one believes her, why? Because she raises a strong voice against any injustice or discrimination. No one believes her, why? Because she cannot be put into any labels. No one believes her, why? Because she is breaking all the shackles society and people are putting her into. No one believes her, why? Because she possesses better skills and knowledge and that can threaten 'some' people. No one believes her, why? Because she will still protect herself and rise above this hypocrisy. No one believes her, why? Because she aspires to be more than just labels. Hoping for the day when she will not have to prove her existence to anyone.

Appreciation. It's very important that you appreciate things, apprecuate people in your life and most importantly appreciate yourselves for being you. This kind gesture shouldn't be taken lightly or on your ego. Some of the appreciations we have started taking lightly. Apart from mother, father, family, cousins, friends, partner there are still some people who needs your appreciation. A person who cleans your house,  appreciate them to help you. A person working under you , appreciate them for their small achievement. A person who takes time to talk to you or hear you, appreciate them for being there. A person who brings food package or any delivery for you especially in this pandemic, appreciate their efforts and tell them how grateful you are. A person in office with whom you can share and learn, who is having your back in the hardest time, appreciate them for being so kind. A person who used to know are doing something different in their life or fulfilling their dreams and y...

It is okay . Breathe. Calm down. Drink a glass of water. You have to move on from your past things. You did things and things have happened to you. It doesn't mean that you have mood swings all the time. Dont feel that you are less worthy of anything. You are not. You are amazing. You are your dad's fav kid, you are fun person to hangout with and you are going to be happy and fun all the time.  You have to heal. Heal for the world. Heal for yourself. Heal for the people who love you.  You are never victim , you are survivor. Be a better version of yourself every day. Be more happier than last day. Be more compassionate to yourself. You are going to have great life. Just because something happened to you doesn't make you any less or you have to change yourself to someone even you cannot recognize. Accidents happen and people move on. That's how you have to move on. Just be yourself but better version and with better sensibility. Have that kind of confidence where nothing...

Precisely 84 days since I stepped out from my home. I came/shifted to my city right after lockdown started, little did I know that it would lead to such major pandemic and I will be the few lucky ones who  are going through all of this along with the family. So thanks to all the pampering and me being super lazy, i didnt want to step out at all. I was happy in my cocoon. Even stepping out gave me a mini heart stroke until very recently my maternal grandmother actually had a stroke and procrastinating for a week, I finally got hold of my courage and stepped out.  I thought it would be spooky ,empty roads and all that. But apparently people are stepping out. Just like people were carrying their helmet to avoid penalty, all thanks to the govt, now they are keeping their face covered with masks. I was surprised to see roads busy like old times.  Just a brief history, I haven't been in my hometown after Diwali last year and even when I came here this time, my only travel was f...

Dont think anything about what you are going to be in future or what you want Until and unless its in your hand right now, you have no right to think about that Else everything will happen just like the last few years which you have only end up thinking and wasting your precious time.  See what's your priority right now , think about it and then keep your future plans aside for later. Else you will be losing your today's precious time thinking about future and then regretting these same actions in future You have to accept that fact that you are not better than someone else in some particular field. There is no comparison and should not be any. Every human kind is different than one another. You can not or must not waste your life setting up a goal to be Iike someone else. Why you have this need to be known by someone  or do something just to be known or be popular then you are lacking serious motivation to do something good with your life  Stop proving yourself all the t...

Learn to be okay and happiness will follow. Be resilient. Don't regret on what you could have done or become, you can only focus on the things which are in your control now. Right at the moment, you have to make wise decisions and whatever you do, trust that it's the best thing you can do at this point. The major thing to do right now is to self care and believe. You can spend hours doubting your decisions and regretting everything or you can just Every day wake up with the resilience in your mind that whatever is happening in your life is a process and you will get through that. Externalize your failure and internalize your success. This means that whatever small or big success you have got, celebrate it. Celebrate it with your full heart and learn from all the mistakes you have done which resulted in your failure. This will help you grow in the places where you are lacking. You can bring change in you right now.

Acceptance and forgiveness are two things which are very important right now to get peace in this difficult times. Accept yourself and your circumstances and as well as others. You can surely bring change in your future but not in the past. And this applies to others too. You can change yourself but not the others. And also people you are going to love or you love, you should be ready to accept them whoever they are, whatever they do to fully justify your relationship with that person. Same goes for forgiveness. Humankind is full of errors. Every human makes mistakes. That's part of growing up. And when it is like that , every human should also ready to forgive and coexist. Whether you forgive yourself or the other person. Recollecting bad memories from your past or with other will only leads to hatred in your heart and now when world is in dire need of love and compassion, we can not or must not have any hatred towards anything. Spread love and only love.

Lockdown Day 51 Definitely the fastest 51 days of my life The longest time I have been stuck into home and didn't step out from my home at all  I am the lucky one who got to get back to hometown before lockdown started. The place where my family lives in lockdown is under curfew area from the last 51 days so there is no relaxation at all in going out for anything. Police is all over the place. Its on drop silence on the roads.  Initially 21 days were all exciting,  depressing , entertaining and what not.  Everyone enjoyed their time as well cribbed about not going out.  Everyone struggled, they explored their hobbies,called to their long distance loved ones, learnt something new, fucked up their sleep and eat cycles hence the basic routine but now at 55 days of complete lockdown everyone has become calmer. They have more patience now. As someone said in 21 days, if you do something daily then it will just became your habit. Now work from home, not going out, not...

Oh this city, Pune. It has all my heart. My second city to move for work. And what a delight. One of the best time of my life. Got to realize it's importance after I left this city. Honestly. The best work people, the best roommates, the best people I befriended , amazing weather, great places to hang out, young and chill vibes all over the places, great party places and food. Made the best memories. Hopping around from the clubs to historic places to gardens to lakes to mountains , Pune has it all. . There is no explanation why people do that often? Cribbing about the present. I do that a lot . Always been dreaming about the past or the future and hence never lived in the present. Why people don't appreciate what they already have and not what they had or can be. Past is gone and future is unpredictable and we know now ;) Who thought there would be a pandemic attack on the whole world and everything is locked up and we are stuck to one confined place and surviving ...

Journeys are always better than the destination. Period. It is not an easy thought to believe that at first. We are living such fast paced life that we are eager to skip the steps and reach the destination and then look for next goal. . . We had forgotten to live each moment and maybe that's why it is happening what is happening. The pandemic situation. To make you believe in journeys, the hard ones, the beautiful ones, the long ones, the short ones, together or alone and we must reboot ourselves and give it all in to the present, to NOW. . . . Oh how much I miss it. The fine breeze from the window, the cold one especially. The lake, the roads, the speed breakers, the traffic, people on bike or people on car, seeing rain from the window, seeing people doing their daily chores and the sunlight. 🌞 . . Cheers to all the future road trips and the journeys. Till then stay home , stay safe. (Quarantine Thoughts)

Place - Pondicherry/Puducherry Time - Jan-2017 . . . . This was the first place I stepped out after I started earning. So my first trip with my own money *yayyyyy* What could be more cool, right. I was working in Chennai and it was my training period. It was very hectic. No week offs at all. So far from home. Nostalagic. Got an off for 2 days. Made an instant plan. (All thanks to my crazy genes). Booked a zoom car. 5 people off to the place. Only one knew how to drive (oh boy!) And eeeeee what a journey. With not much planning for this impromptu trip, went with the flow and surprising covered everything from paradise island to portugese colony to rock beach to partyyyyy to yum food to beaches to fancy places to clothing to bus travel to different people to a beautiful journey. Hmm. *Major Missing Alert* . . It's a great observation that you only remember happy memories while sharing and not the bad ones and eventually that becomes all of it. All of the memor...