Mostly people I observe are depressed nowadays. They all are dealing with the grief, loss, expectations, burdens and most evidently loneliness.
Let's talk about loneliness. Loneliness is not when you don't have people around , loneliness is that when you are surrounded by all your loved one and still you feel sad or empty inside.
Why people feel lonely?
I am definitely not an expert but I think people feel lonely because lack of self love. Everyone goes out from their home at some point of time for job or studies, leave friends , have a bad breakup or lots of issues and they all depend on their parents, boyfriend, husband , children and friends. They get so dependent on other people for their happiness, for approval, financially, socially acceptable, parties and mostly for the sake of not doing anything alone.
How can we overcome it?
The only way to overcome your loneliness is to
1) Financially stable. So work hard , stay focused, achieve your dreams and atleast don't depend on anyone financially. This is important so that if we wanna do something we can do that without getting help from others.
2) Happiness- Don't depend on anyone else to make you happy. Don't wait for someone to watch a movie with you, go for a movie yourself. Don't wait for anyone to travel, travel solo. Find yourself, love yourself more than you can love anyone else. That's how only you can deal with the loss or pain of the other person if they goes away. If every part of your happiness depends on some person then when they go away, you ll leave with nothing to make you happy, you ll break down and you ll lose your focus and career. Instead be grateful for all you had, move on what all you can achieve , explore your passion, have 'me' time a lot, do things alone, stay positive , don't let negative thought in your mind, don't get dependent on anything for your happiness, don't over share your feelings with everyone. Know your worth.
Focus on long term goals than thinking about your past loss. Love yourself and don't regret anything what you have already done or what you cannot change now. Think about all the positive things happened in your life so even if right now you are feeling low or lonely, you ll get back and you ll soon be exact happy without depending on someone else. Do not stop doing what you love or achieving your passion or goal just because you lose someone whom you were dependent. Have your own hobbies who will give you strengths in harder times. You are the infinite source of happiness. You are happiness. Don't think yourself anything else.
Focus on long term goals than thinking about your past loss. Love yourself and don't regret anything what you have already done or what you cannot change now. Think about all the positive things happened in your life so even if right now you are feeling low or lonely, you ll get back and you ll soon be exact happy without depending on someone else. Do not stop doing what you love or achieving your passion or goal just because you lose someone whom you were dependent. Have your own hobbies who will give you strengths in harder times. You are the infinite source of happiness. You are happiness. Don't think yourself anything else.
3) Focus on yourself. Plan for future but only about yourself. What you want to do? What you want to eat? What you want to watch? Where you wanna go? You don't need anyone else. For example- If sometimes back, watching Harry Potter made you happy, watch it now. Don't lose your happy moments anymore. There is no tomorrow, everything you wanna do, do it right now.
What if you don't do anything about it?
This is for the fact very true that after sometimes you ll get overcome your grief, loneliness and loss but you ll regret what you have lost because you get misguided when there was a proper time to do something. And then that ll burden you for the rest of your life.
So moral of the story- Stay Focused, Love yourself first, Don't overthink, Don't depend on someone else, Don't overshare, Always have positive thoughts and be greatful for all you have in your life right now.