Prologue- Taking my parent's advice too seriously, I thought of being a responsible big sister for once and wrote my younger ones a letter that this early adulting is gonna be too fucked up but you ll make it all right.
Dear younger ones,
1. It's okay to feel scared about the future most of the time, it's okay to get concerned about the uncertainties going on. It's high time in your life that these changes will happen and these will happen for good, all is going to be well super soon and everything will get settled soon.
2. You ll lose touch people in your life who once were the closest and who made promises to stay together for the longest time. They might not going to be but it's okay you ll find more amazing people and the people who you love will eventually find a way to get back in your life and people who want to go, they will go no matter what. You just have to be understanding and patient.
3. Trust issues- Yes it's going to look super tough to trust easily after so many people must have already broken your trust but you have to trust and you can and you will when the right people come along in your life. The only person you have to trust right now is yourself and time and everything will be all right.
4. You ll find people around you so happy in their relationship and successful jobs and you feel like you are such a failure getting now where but you will. Everyone has a different timeline. You don't have to prove anything to anyone, you just have to live.
5. You might think no one understands you anymore, what you do, what you say, what you want but they will, your peers are facing the same crisis and your elders have age gap issues, it will take time to convince them. The only person you have to convince right now is you.
6. You must have been fallen in love, get attached to someone too deep and thought about all the possibilities with them but they left you or they cheated you and now you feel like you lost your soulmate and you ll forever be alone or you ll have to compromise and it will never be as pure and as selfless, but trust me, no one ends alone, there are still billions and billions of people, you are just in your early 20's, so much to explore, so many people to meet, fall in love more. It's just like if you wanna find out your favorite kind of desert, you have to and experiment and try out others also right? and once you ll find it, you ll stick to it and love it for the rest of your life. Okay, not a good example but you can change your favorites too but you got the point right?
7. You don't feel like party anymore or socializing like you used to do, you just want to sit in your pajamas in a cozy blanket and binge NetFlix or your favorite movies, yes it's okay, it's a phase, someday soon you 'll want to do all the things which you don't like nowadays. It's okay to be moody. It's okay to self pamper. Just be happy and positive. Again, remember people who want to stay will stay.
8. It's okay if you are not doing your dream job, it's okay if you are just doing it to pay your bills, it's okay if you don't know what you want to do, there is still time, you are not a failure, you are just clueless which half of the people are but don't admit it. Just try, just admit it, just work hard, trust yourself, by the end of 30, you ll know that it was all worth it, never self doubt yourself.
9. It's okay if you right now are very confused and you are over thinking, people do it all the time and it's not only you, you are just not adaptable to all the changes which is happening in your life and once you ll get used to it, everything will be fine.
10. People will hurt, they will break promises, you ll do everything for them and they ll still leave you or not fulfill your expectations but it's okay that's how you will learn to judge, that's how you know how to choose your friends accordingly.
11. It's okay if you feel alienated sometimes and you think your parents and I , don't understand you anymore. We do and we love you and we ll love you irrespective of whatever you are feeling right now, we are always going to be there.You just have to come up to us if sometimes you feel ignorant because there is absolutely no one in the world who can give you as much as love and support like we are going to.
12. Always be positive. I know you don't believe in God and you are like all "scientist" about this but even if you believe in it's existence or not, you know it gives us a positive attitude towards everything and it's existence makes us feel secure and hopeful so there is no harm . It might well help you with trust issues too, you know.
13. It's okay if you don't have lots of savings and you end up spending everything, you are too young to save anything right now, just live , be happy and try to fulfill every one of your dreams and take more risks. You ll eventually find a way to settled down soon in your late 20's.
14. You don't need to wait someone to magically fix you, you have to get up and fix yourself. Self love is the most important thing which will take you to long way in your life.
Only love,
Big Sister.
Dear younger ones,
1. It's okay to feel scared about the future most of the time, it's okay to get concerned about the uncertainties going on. It's high time in your life that these changes will happen and these will happen for good, all is going to be well super soon and everything will get settled soon.
2. You ll lose touch people in your life who once were the closest and who made promises to stay together for the longest time. They might not going to be but it's okay you ll find more amazing people and the people who you love will eventually find a way to get back in your life and people who want to go, they will go no matter what. You just have to be understanding and patient.
3. Trust issues- Yes it's going to look super tough to trust easily after so many people must have already broken your trust but you have to trust and you can and you will when the right people come along in your life. The only person you have to trust right now is yourself and time and everything will be all right.
4. You ll find people around you so happy in their relationship and successful jobs and you feel like you are such a failure getting now where but you will. Everyone has a different timeline. You don't have to prove anything to anyone, you just have to live.
5. You might think no one understands you anymore, what you do, what you say, what you want but they will, your peers are facing the same crisis and your elders have age gap issues, it will take time to convince them. The only person you have to convince right now is you.
6. You must have been fallen in love, get attached to someone too deep and thought about all the possibilities with them but they left you or they cheated you and now you feel like you lost your soulmate and you ll forever be alone or you ll have to compromise and it will never be as pure and as selfless, but trust me, no one ends alone, there are still billions and billions of people, you are just in your early 20's, so much to explore, so many people to meet, fall in love more. It's just like if you wanna find out your favorite kind of desert, you have to and experiment and try out others also right? and once you ll find it, you ll stick to it and love it for the rest of your life. Okay, not a good example but you can change your favorites too but you got the point right?
7. You don't feel like party anymore or socializing like you used to do, you just want to sit in your pajamas in a cozy blanket and binge NetFlix or your favorite movies, yes it's okay, it's a phase, someday soon you 'll want to do all the things which you don't like nowadays. It's okay to be moody. It's okay to self pamper. Just be happy and positive. Again, remember people who want to stay will stay.
8. It's okay if you are not doing your dream job, it's okay if you are just doing it to pay your bills, it's okay if you don't know what you want to do, there is still time, you are not a failure, you are just clueless which half of the people are but don't admit it. Just try, just admit it, just work hard, trust yourself, by the end of 30, you ll know that it was all worth it, never self doubt yourself.
9. It's okay if you right now are very confused and you are over thinking, people do it all the time and it's not only you, you are just not adaptable to all the changes which is happening in your life and once you ll get used to it, everything will be fine.
10. People will hurt, they will break promises, you ll do everything for them and they ll still leave you or not fulfill your expectations but it's okay that's how you will learn to judge, that's how you know how to choose your friends accordingly.
11. It's okay if you feel alienated sometimes and you think your parents and I , don't understand you anymore. We do and we love you and we ll love you irrespective of whatever you are feeling right now, we are always going to be there.You just have to come up to us if sometimes you feel ignorant because there is absolutely no one in the world who can give you as much as love and support like we are going to.
12. Always be positive. I know you don't believe in God and you are like all "scientist" about this but even if you believe in it's existence or not, you know it gives us a positive attitude towards everything and it's existence makes us feel secure and hopeful so there is no harm . It might well help you with trust issues too, you know.
13. It's okay if you don't have lots of savings and you end up spending everything, you are too young to save anything right now, just live , be happy and try to fulfill every one of your dreams and take more risks. You ll eventually find a way to settled down soon in your late 20's.
14. You don't need to wait someone to magically fix you, you have to get up and fix yourself. Self love is the most important thing which will take you to long way in your life.
Only love,
Big Sister.